The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children

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Most parenting is done unconsciously, without awareness of interpersonal dynamics between you and your child.

When we are unable to accept our children, it’s because they open up old wounds in us, threatening some ego-attachment we are still holding onto. With the myth that the relationship between parent and child should be unidirectional shattered, the circular potential of this journey comes into view, as we discover that our children contribute to our growth in ways that are perhaps more profound than we can ever contribute to theirs. Don’t be too harsh on your children, and always be willing to listen to them and understand their feelings. As working parents, it sometimes feels like there’s no energy at the end of the day for your family. And it is the first step towards becoming a conscious parent – we need to accept that our child is a unique human being who can be much different from us.Empathy requires a willingness to suspend our own feelings so we can align with those of our children. There’s also a little focus on Mum (sorry Dads) as we understand how important her health and wellbeing is to maintaining a happy and healthy baby. Unless we address why we can’t embrace our children for precisely who they are, we will forever either seek to mold, control, and dominate them — or we will allow ourselves to be dominated by them. Being aware of your triggers will make it easier to stay calm when your kids start getting on your nerves.

Shefali Tsabary is neither a how-to guide on raising good children nor another step-by-step manual to overcoming the usual challenges of parenthood.In other words, our children might contribute to our growth much more than we can contribute to theirs.

The core question asked and answered by The Conscious Parent is obvious: How can you expect to raise children with a higher state of consciousness and empowerment if you are not a conscious and self-aware parent? When we see our children for all they are yet to become, barely recognizing all they already are, we tech them they are incomplete. Tsabary goes so far as to even claim that “the relationship between parent and child exists for the primary purpose of the parent's transformation and only secondarily for the raising of the child. We cease squandering our existence on impersonal material things, realizing that what matters is a connection to ourselves and the relationships in our life. The focus is always on us as parents, requiring us to look within and ask, ‘What am I bringing to this relationship in this moment that is mine to own and not my child’s to receive?tips for navigating parenthood Positive parenting is a parenting framework for approaching challenges with a caring and calm attitude. Even more unsettling, our childhood traumas tend to inform our decision-making without us being aware of it. Teach your child to become comfortable with quiet aloneness – encourage stillness, teach them to meditate, and reduce the distractions to a minimum (e. Hence by offering us a reflection of our unconsciousness, our children bestow on us an inestimable gift.